I’ve been thinking about this lately. I’ve been thinking about how it’s natural to want to help other people with whatever situation they’re going through and wanting to give them your best advice. But sometimes I wonder if it’s really a good idea!?
You know, a lot of times “we” feel that if the other person would just do what we think they should do, then they’d be all right. Their life would be so much better. But it’s not always true. So instead, it’s perhaps better to realize and remember to just let them be.
We can’t help other people if they don’t want to be helped. Period.
We can’t force our opinion on other people and have them adopt that as their opinion, as their truth.
I’ve been giving “a lot” of unsolicited help and advice these last few months, but I feel like I’ve just been throwing it into a hole…so, I’m done. I think it’s better that way anyways. Not worrying about helping others UNLESS THEY ASK will save me a ton of time and energy.
I mean, if people really want others to help them with A, B or C – they have to ASK for it. If they don’t, they don’t and I won’t spend (waste) my time on figuring out and/or worrying about them and how I might possible help them. It’s not my “job”. It’s not my place. Not unless they specifically ask.
So, my advice to myself (and others) is STOP giving unsolicited help. Just stop, because their life is not your life. So they can figure it out for themselves…until they (maybe) ask for your help.