I understand that self-awareness is hard. To know what you want is sometimes hard to figure out. Sure, you may know exactly what we want to order when you go to a restaurant or what kind of movie you want to see when you go to the cinema.
But do you know what you want in the the broader, more general sense? Do you know what you want in life here and now and with your life in the future?
It’s probably one of the hardest things to figure out and to pin down. I remember some years ago, someone asked me what my 5-year plan was.
I HAD NO F* CLUE.
I sometimes still don’t, but I do know that it’s important to have some kind of general clue and to realize that this may change. What I wanted last year for my future is not necessarily what I want today. And what I want today may change again next year. That’s not the point, really. The point is to be constantly and continuously self-aware. Knowing what you want and that what you want may change at any moment is also a form of self-awareness. Really.
Life is really “just” a series of options and choices. But you need to make those choices if you want to move forward. Those choices can be small, big or huge. But they’re always there and you always have to choose. You can’t just say whatever – at least not always.
If you haven’t figured out what you want, don’t despair. Just figure it out eventually (the sooner, the better!), but make a decision to figure it out. Otherwise, I think you’ll get stuck in a life that you really don’t want, doing things that don’t matter or make sense to you.
Take, for example, someone who’s looking for a job. You have to know what kind of job you want (or at least an idea) to look for a job – the right job. I’ve received so many resumes from people where I live that were looking for a job…people who just sent me their resume, saying I’m looking for a job. So? What kind of job are you looking for?
Even just earlier this month, someone wrote to me that they were moving back to town later this year and would be looking for a job…so, if I heard about anything or knew of something, I should let this person know. I would love to help, but (honestly) be a little more specific and give me something to work with. Give me a clue.
In my opinion…if you want something, you have to ask for it. But before you ask, you have to know what you want.
It’s that “simple”.
Photo: A statue at the Apartheid Museum in Johannesburg, South Africa. I visited there in April, 2017.