As I get older (!), I feel that I’m realizing more and more about myself, about people and life in general. I don’t know if aging automatically comes with a certain dose of self-awareness and general realization, but I feel that I’m discovering certain truths that I perhaps didn’t fully realize, say, 20 years ago.
Or maybe it was just that I didn’t spend so much time truly reflecting on these things when I was in my 20s…young and naive?
One thing that I’ve been thinking about lately is the fact that you have to be you. I mean, you have to be yourself and stop trying to be someone else. Maybe that sounds like a silly thing to say and maybe you’re doing a face palm right now, but I think there are plenty of people in this world who either don’t realize this or don’t practice this.
You have to be you.
And you have to live and work from that foundation. If you’re working in a job that’s not really you where you always feel like you have to fake it and put on a show just to make it (and it’s not really what you want to be doing), then you need to stop doing that because it’s probably not going to work in the long run.
I think it’s better to hit the brakes, take a step back and get yourself on the right track in order to truly move forward…
When I was younger, I spent many years fighting myself and how I was, thinking that I had to be a certain (I.e unnatural) way in life and not wanting to be the way I really was – then. And in the end…or about halfway towards the end, I realize and have come to accept that this fight was and is bullshit.
Of course, there are just some things that you shouldn’t do, say and certain ways that you shouldn’t act towards others (don’t be an asshole; don’t lie, steal, cheat, harm others, etc.). But all that aside, you have to be the way you are and keep being you…if that’s what makes you happy. Of course, if you really want to change, then you should try to change. But if you’re you and you’re happy with the way you are, don’t let anyone else put you down for being you – ever.
There will always be people who like you and others who dislike you. There will always be people who will support, applaud and love you. And there will be people who will push their negative energy onto you and try to push and keep you down.
Whatever happens, you have to stay true to yourself. Don’t hide yourself or stop doing what you love because someone doesn’t like you or like what you’re doing. If we’re constantly worried about being perfect (what is perfect, anyways?), about pleasing other people and you’re afraid of making mistakes and failing, then I don’t think you’ll ever get very far in life.
You have to be you first and foremost. You have to take care of you and make you happy before you can worry about anyone else.
If you aren’t you, then who’s going to be?